Help! :\

[Dale]

Noone is going to read this anyway, but whatever. It's worth a try I guess. Over the past weeks, I've been having problems with my life and my family. First off, I'll talk about my family...

I babysit a very bad 10 year old everyday. (a.k.a. my little brother) He has a huge fascination with knives, and better yet anything sharp. He also has a short-temper. Meaning if you say one thing he doesn't like, you're dead meat. For no reason at all, he has been pulling knives on me, threatening to slit my throat in my sleep, and the list goes on. This is the same kid that has had a criminal record since he started school. Well, about 2 weeks ago, he got mad at me (don't know why). He pulled out a big, sharp steak knife and was chasing me around the house with it, and even through it at me (it hit the door though, thank god.) Then, he cut my damn hand with it. I was so mad. I told my mom when she got home, and nothing was done (my brother never gets in trouble because he's the youngest).

A few days ago, he was mad about something (I had nothing to do with it, as I was working all day). He started screaming out of nowhere and I ran to the living room, only to find him holding a knife. I was like "Devin, put that away" and he replied with some "words". Made me even madder, considering I babysit him 11 hours a day and get nothing. Not even a damn "Thank you Dale". And hell, my mom doesn't even consider what I do "babysitting" because he's my brother. But whatever. Anyways, back to the story... He was chasing me around with it and ended up cutting me pretty good on the palm of my left hand. I was so mad, I just screamed my lungs out and ran into my room. Couldn't do anything about it though. When mom got home, told her about it. Again, NOTHING was done.

Then, he beat me with a wood broomstick about 2 weeks ago so im all bruised up AND I have bitemarks all over my arms. How nice.

That's not all that he's recently done. Let's see... He also broke my pinky a few weeks ago with the remote because I asked him if I could see it.

Oh, and he got tea in my laptop keyboard and I have to fork over like $100+ to get it fixed and everything. He's costing me entirely too much money.

My mom wants to put me on meds because she thinks all this is my fault, and I'm causing all the problems. But yeah, if she gets me anything, its going down the toilet. I'm not taking medicine just because of my damn brother.

Okay, now onto my life.... I have lived with Depression and all the other crap I have for years now. Up until recently, you wouldn't even be able to tell I was depressed. Recently, there has been too much going on for my 13 year old body to handle. It's just crazy. I can honestly say I have a sucky life (I know there are people that have it way worse than me, but my life does suck). Most of my family is on my brother's side, and are always babying him. I even have to clean up all the freaking messes he makes. How stupid. And I'm not even appreciated. I'm just sick of it. If things don't straighten up, I'm finding another family to live with. No, I'm not dramatizing anything. Actually, things are probably worse than I make them sound. There's been so many bad things happen to me, most I can't even talk about to people. Things are getting so bad, I honestly don't trust any of my family. My close friends/online friends know way more about me than my family does.

Whatever, I'm done rambling. Feel free to put me down. Or call me a few names. It wouldn't be the first time. Well actually, noone is going to read this anyway. :no:

[Dale]

im so mad right now still. next time he pulls this ****, im making sure the cops come in the middle of it

[grace]

Noone is going to read this anyway, but whatever.
I read every word, Dale.

I'm so sorry about your brother. This is horrible and it made me cry. I feel so bad for you. Too bad you can't live with me. :(

If you ever need someone to talk to, like I said I'm here for you. Your brother needs more discipline and his behavior is not your fault at all so you don't need to go on meds.

[Dale]

Thanks Graciee :)

I forgot to mention this;

My dad isn't so good either. We planned on flying up to Maryland this summer to visit him since he's been in jail for 2 years for...things. But yeah, he cancelled because he found a new girlfriend and she is more important than us. He ruined my whole summer. I planned on visiting friends in Ohio too, but I had to tell them all that I'm not coming. It's just soo nice telling my friends, most of them I've known since I was a baby, that I'm not going to see them for a few years. Whatever though. I seriously hate my life with a passion.

[RKGraphics]

Ok. So I read this. And you have told me about prior incidents and I was appauled at your mom for not rushing to help you via phone or just to come home and take care of it. I remember that day with your pinky. Dale, you are 13, you need to be enjoying your life. As a teen. Not a parent. However, what you go through now will make you tougher, hopefully. But still, your parents should be stepping in a little more.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I would allow you to come "get away" if I had more room around here. I think it's awesome that you help out, but to not get any recognition or appreciation from it has to be really hard on you. And don't mind what people on here say. Honestly, you are young, you have a different thought process than us older folgies so don't pay any mind to them.

You know how to reach me if you have more issues. I swear, the next time you come to me though, and nothing is done, I will call someone myself (no not child protection services) but I will figure out who to call. Just stay strong, and although pills are probably not the best thing for a teenager, some sort of treatment for depression is. I don't know your whole circumstance with your life, but it sounds like your mom needs to step it up more.

[xo.Saz.xo]

OMG Dale, thats TERRIBLE! I cant believe a 10 year old, who's your BROTHER would do that to you! I'm really sorry to hear about what's been happening, I'd talk to someone if i were you, you cant let this keep happening, one day he could even stab you if he's been chasing you with knifes and even throwing them. I hope everything works out okay Dale <33

[mcfox]

Talk to your aunties or other extended family if your mum isn't going to help - she might just listen to them. Phone them if he pulls a knife again and tell them to come over.

Sounds like your kid brother is having issues, probably about a whole load of stuff related to the move, your dad - all the same stuff that gets you mad - except you are in the firing line as you are looking after him and he's too young to know (a) how to deal with the emotions he's feeling and (b) why he is even feeling them in the first place.

From the perspective of changing things, have you tried talking to, and listening to, your brother? Yes, that sounds like a f*** you type question, I know, but from a parent's perspective I understand that kids usually play up when things are bothering them and if I can find out what the problem is it usually makes a difference to the situation. Learning to listen and approach things by discussion can de-escalate an immediate situation and prevent further ones.

[Dale]

Thanks guys. :) Yeah, it's not fun at all living this way :no: I even offer to help my mom out moneywise. Now, shes making it seem like its my job (I haven't given her a whole lot, but still). Most of my family refuses to take me in. It's just really hard, theres more happening, but I don't know if I'd be able to talk about it in public. What makes it even worse is, my brother has like 6-8 pocketknives and my mom has yet to take them away. :rolleyes: MyspacePros is kind of my "retreat" from everything, but some people are just making things worse. I really apreciate all the people on here that are nice and helpful.

And thanks Tina :) I really appreciate that. I'll be sure to let you know what's going on.

[Dale]

Yes, I've tried talking to him. And I've even tried bribes like if he's good, he can have the computer for the rest of the day (which would end up being a 9 hour turn for him). He's just born to be bad I guess

[mcfox]

Bribes won't work in this situation - he's looking for attention.

[Jen]

Dale, that is terrible. Im so sorry your going through this.

IF you are serious about getting away and getting help, then you need to call Child protective services. Also if you have some sort of video camera you can setup to capture what is happening to you, it will help your side as well.

Let us know what state your in and we can get you a number to call. This has to stop TODAY or else the worse will happen. And with that sort of family, it can and will happen if nothing is done about it.

Your family doesnt even have to know you were the one who called them. It can be setup that someone has heard the cries and screams from the house.

PLEASE, call them and get the help. This is a tragedy waiting to happen.

I will pray for you to be safe and out of harms way soon.

[RKGraphics]

Dale. The point is, you are 13, your brother is 10. He has knives. You are being put in a position to be a parent. You are getting hurt and nothing is being done. It is not YOUR job to try and fix your brother. Bottom line. You are not the adult, or the parent. You help out as much as you can, you try what you think works. If you call child protective service, be prepared for something to happen. Something needs to be done now or you are gonna get hurt worse, or your brother will hurt himself or someone else more so than now. Yes, tragedy waiting to happen.

Thanks for sharing. Really. People care about your well being on here. But remember, you have a TON of parents on here and some of us will sit back because it's not our place, and other's will do what they can to help because it seems like nobody else is on your side.

[Sergio]

Bribes won't work in this situation - he's looking for attention.
I agree. Just like you, he probably doesn't get any recognition for anything he does (even if it's bad). This may sound dumb, but you should try paying attention to him. Not just watch over him, but play with him, and make sure you start the games or he will want to play knife fights. Become his friend, a good friend. Eventually he will follow your footsteps and become a good kid, just like you. Just start conversations with him, if he says something just be like "Oh really? Tell me more". It might be annoying (listening to little kids can be boring sometimes), but you might fix him. Make sure he still knows you have authority, or he will try to take advantage. Good luck.

And calling the police isn't a great idea. They might take you and your brother away from your mom. She could even go to jail for neglect (not sure if that's the right word). Or they might force your mom to take him to a psychologist or something, and that obviously costs money.

[Dale]

Thanks guys :) Today wasn't bad because he's been asleep all day :rolleyes: Yeah, if anything happens again, I'll get a number and someone will be notified. I try talking to him all the time, I ask him if he wants to play the PS2 with me or something, I ask him if he wants to go on bikerides. He always opts to watch TV or just run around and act crazy. I've even taught him how to make glitters, etc etc. thinking that may be fun for him. But no :no:

[minnseoelite]

dale that really sucks, Tina is right you are a kid and its not up to you to try and fix him. If he keeps doing what he is doing and you can't get another family member to step in you need to look outside your family for help before someone gets seriously hurt.

[Dale]

Thanks Jason. Yeah, If one more thing happens, I'll try to find someone that can help. I'll find somewhere else to live if that's what it takes :\

[Jessica61981]

what you should do is take all the knives in the house and HIDE THEM. Make sure it is a place where he can not get to.

But yeah do some like said. play with him, be his brother, etc.

I know its hard but you can get through it :)

[Dale]

Thanks Jess :) Ugh, I'm so freaking mad at him right now. He just did something totally out of hand. @#$%&* I've seriously had enough. We had our internet dissconnected last night because our neighbors, then it just came back on about an hour ago and im trying to catch up with all the work im doing. He decides that he doesnt want me to work so he comes a slams the broom stick across my back about 10 times (and i have spinal scoliosis so its screwed up enough). Then he gets out his bike pegs (the heavy steel ones) and throws them at my head and stomach, full force. so i go and try to lock myself in my room and he gets out a knife and starts slamming the back of it on the door and unlocks it then he chases me in my little room with a damn knife. %#&$ good thing i had my freaking computer chair to push infront of me or i wouldve been a goner for sure. im just sick of this. i never even get to sleep anymore because of him.

[Sergio]

Wow, sounds like he went too far this time. Ermm, have you tried hitting him? Showing him who's boss? :D

[Dale]

Wow, sounds like he went too far this time. Ermm, have you tried hitting him? Showing him who's boss? :D

Yeah ROFL I even have to hold him down sometimes to refrain him from going further.