I need therapy

[Kasami2k4]

I cant stop looking for things to be angry about at my boyfriend ;( Its like Im trying to push him so far he'll dump me so I can feel sorry for myself. Someone come to my house and slap me.

:poop:

Any of you other girls 'insane' like this? Or am I alone here? :(

[carlee]

I'm kinda like that but I do it with everyone, lol. x)

[treacle]

I did that myself when younger and it is sort of a test of how far you can go. I ended up marrying him, when I realised what I had been doing!

[NYCBORN]

What's up with that? Ever think maybe you know you don't want to be with him?

[Connections]

don't u have close gurl freinds to ***** to about him, or just ***** in general to......

every time one of my sisters has problems with boyfriends or just random junk theirs a bunch of chics over here having a ***** session lol, or theirs *****in going on over phone calls, just tonight their was some **** on facebook from a ex "that soooo wasnt true lol" it was on the *****y phone calls have been goign hot for the last hour lol.....

I full cant concentrate theirs all screaming and agressive tension going down....I do have 2 sister like the same age as me lol....

[Kyle]

My girl doesnt have the energy to whine about me when Im done with her belieeeve that

[PGZ]

You sound like a typical woman to me.........so your not alone.

Seen from the eyes of a guy.

[Cyclops]

You sound like a typical woman to me.........so your not alone.

Seen from the eyes of a guy.
Have to agree 100% with that lol.

[George]

Nah I can't agree with that...

Sounds more like typical teen angst.

A real, mature woman says what she means and means what she says. No time for games.

I've met women like you describe yourself that are like you even into their early 20s.

Either you love a person or you don't. Once you're older and truly realize what you want, silly little highschool games like this will seem like just that. Silly.

[Ajay]

^ i think she is in her 20s

I'll have to agree with pgz and cyclops on this.

[carlee]

I've met women like you describe yourself that are like you even into their early 20s.
I think Tiffany's 23...and I'm 20. :P So females in their 20s do sometimes do it. =\

[George]

Jeez you broads are old.

No I kid I kid.. :winkiss:

Seriously though, doesn't that prove my point? :)

[carlee]

Jeez you broads are old.

No I kid I kid.. :winkiss:

Seriously though, doesn't that prove my point? :)
If I remember correctly, you said that it was "playing games" and you also said it sounded like "teenage angst". :P

[George]

Yeah I guess I could have explained my point better. Point being this is typical behaviour you'd find in teenage highschool boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and it tends to bleed over into early 20s as well. Women I meet that are in their late 20s and early 30s that are well into their careers and know what they want in life usually don't have time for games like this.

So yes in that sense what she described sounds exactly like teenage angst and uncertainty. Which makes perfect sense because if you're married and have those feelings it means either you married the wrong person (again youthful mistake) or you were just too young to get married in the first place. No?

[ashbernie311]

Yeah I guess I could have explained my point better. Point being this is typical behaviour you'd find in teenage highschool boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and it tends to bleed over into early 20s as well.

So yes in that sense what she described sounds exactly like teenage angst and uncertainty. Which makes perfect sense because if you're married and have those feelings it means either you married the wrong person (again youthful mistake) or you were just too young to get married in the first place. No?


Women are always going to do confusing things- even to the man she loves/is married too. It doesn't make them 'immature'. That's how women can be. Our emotions are a lot more complex than men's- at any age.

Don't worry Tiff, whatever happens- happens for a reason- You'll realize whether or not you still wanna be with him. By the way, you've gotta come over again soon :]

[George]

Well then I will concede this thread as proof that I still don't understand women.

Thank you. :)

[Dale]

My one ex tried to ditch me because she wanted another guy. So I did the dirty work for her and just dumped her myself.

[JCs]

Tiff you will soon find out if you love him or loath him LOL Only time i'm like that is during my time of the month and im 35 so i don't think it has anything to do with being younger LOL

[NYCBORN]

Well then I will concede this thread as proof that I still don't understand women.

Thank you. :)

There is nothing to understand they aren't logical. Women are emotional and don't make sense.

[Breanna]

My cousin has that problem with her boyfriend.
And when she gets really mad she beats him up.
:/

[Kasami2k4]

Well, makes me feel better not to be alone >< One guy told me it was really abnormal for a girl to be like that towards a guy. And I should see a therapist about it. Just when we fight, I don't sleep because I feel like I dropkicked a baby into a lake or something really horrible -_- I can't stand to fight with him, but I always pick fights. It's really sucky

[mcfox]

Well, makes me feel better not to be alone >< One guy told me it was really abnormal for a girl to be like that towards a guy. And I should see a therapist about it. Just when we fight, I don't sleep because I feel like I dropkicked a baby into a lake or something really horrible -_- I can't stand to fight with him, but I always pick fights. It's really sucky
LMAO! rofl omg - what an expression! I've never heard that one before!

Why are you picking fights with your b/f anyway? Don't you like him any more or what?

[Connections]

im pretty sure its just emotions that girls have mcfox been behind the reason for these fights....one moment they in totall love with you the next they are crying and just flipping out at random stuff, ive seen this too many times...

some times when I see this with girls I know I cruise over to their house and confort them, but other times you just have to let them have their own little space for a few days......

[Greg-J]

There's only one legitimate reason to look for a reason to pick a fight with your significant other and that's to have what you kids refer to as "make-up sex". Unless you're looking forward to that, I think there's something abnormal about it.

That said, I don't think it's that uncommon. I don't think that's a good enough reason to do it, but it sounds normal to me...

[jeremy860]

There's only one legitimate reason to look for a reason to pick a fight with your significant other and that's to have what you kids refer to as "make-up sex". Unless you're looking forward to that, I think there's something abnormal about it.

That said, I don't think it's that uncommon. I don't think that's a good enough reason to do it, but it sounds normal to me...

oh yes, nothing better than makeup sex. Thats when we get more crazier than prehistoric cave people.

[minnseoelite]

Yup thats one way to get it lol.....my gf is a pro at that one

[Kasami2k4]

It's not the sex :l I figured it out I think ;\ I been hurt before and hate gettin close, so I freaked. Now that I know what it is, I'll be okie again.

No more puttin him through hell (I'll try anyway)

Anyway, I gotta look fr my diablo 2 CDs, so I can log on under a diff SN and kill him a few times. ;p

I guess I just needed to vent cuz for some reason when the sun goes down, I get really emotionally weird ;\

[Meghann_78]

I've been there and I went on and married him, can't believe the crap I put him through but most of it was from issues I had from a previous relationship - but he stuck it out LOL

It gets better - that is if you want it too?

LMAO @ Jeremy - so very true LOL

[Kasami2k4]

Oh man, what I put mine through.. I'm not even gonna go into detail, but I'm surprised he still loves me as much hahahaha I know most guys wouldnt put up with it!

I agree with jeremy, but Im more into the emotional than the physical ;o

[mcfox]

Oh man, what I put mine through.. I'm not even gonna go into detail, but I'm surprised he still loves me as much hahahaha I know most guys wouldnt put up with it!

I agree with jeremy, but Im more into the emotional than the physical ;o
Does that mean you are seeking out the drama of the argument?

[YabbaDoo]

There was actually an article about this exact thing in one of them Womans advice magazine things where you write to a Psychologist and they give you advice...
Well, I've lost the freaking mag now but I remember it was something to do with she had been hurt in the past and girls are much less "inviting" than men after they have been hurt (in any way not neccasarily by a bf). so yeah, it is actually true what you said I think you hit it pretty much on the head.
People who have been hurt in the past develop a coping-mechanism. Everybody's coping mechanism is different. In this case your way of dealing with your past experiences of negativity is to prevent them being caused again, and the way you do that is:
- You want a bf because you feel alone without one
- When you get one as soon as he gets close to you, you worry he's going to hurt you so you shut off emotionally to PREVENT him from hurting you and in turn you hurt him (people who have been hurt develop a tendency to hurt other people FIRST, because the theory is if you hurt them first they can't hurt YOU first and therefore YOU cannot get hurt ;)) - Of course this then means:
- You will hurt him first and chances are he will leave you.
- You're back to sqaure one.

You are just hitting out first to prevent him getting the first shot IMO.
Sometimes, you just have to put your past to one side and let the people of your future get into your life a little more....There's nothing wrong with getting close to him and letting him get close to you, IF he hurts you, then you know what they say: There's plenty more fish in the sea! ;)

I would rather go through life getting close to people and getting hurt by them until I find the "good guy" who wont hurt me than just distance myself from people who want to get close to me COMPLETELY through fear they COULD hurt me.

[Connections]

reading "Womans advice magazine" are we YabbaDoo??????

lol

[Jordan]

reading "Womans advice magazine" are we YabbaDoo??????

lol
LOL about to say the same thing.

There's only one legitimate reason to look for a reason to pick a fight with your significant other and that's to have what you kids refer to as "make-up sex". Unless you're looking forward to that, I think there's something abnormal about it.
Wait, what else would it be referred to as? it's such a great term imo hahaha.

[Envision]

I've been married for 12 years and I'm still trying to figure out my wife's emotions!

[JCs]

I've been married for 12 years and I'm still trying to figure out my wife's emotions!

Good luck ROFL

[netstorm]

Sounds like a women, how old are you?

[PICPRINCESS]

Two books that i just found and totally forgot i had that trust me are life savers, regardless of your age....soooo glad i just found them again:

Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either
http://www.amazon.com/Honest-Youre-Not-That-Into-Either/dp/B000EGEZ4M/ref=pd_sim_b_3/103-6046821-9140606

He's Just Not That Into You
http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/068987474X/ref=pd_sim_b_1/103-6046821-9140606

[netstorm]

Drink some green tea, it usually settles people down a lot. Whenever I try to piss off my girlfriend I drink my tea!